Cleaning Up
Power

We need new ways of
being men in the world.

Many of us have learned to soften, to open our hearts, to feel and express our feelings. All this is essential — and yet it seems like we need more. We need our power, so we can stay open in the face of challenges.

Power has been so distorted that it has almost become a dirty word. How can we come into power in a way that supports life — in ourselves and in others? Can we remain soft as we take that step?

We want to be clear about what this is not. We haven't figured out what it means to live with clean male power and arrived to teach it to you. Cleaning Up Power is an inquiry. Together we open to the questions — what is power, what blocks it in us, how do we use and misuse it, how has it been used and misused against us — and we follow where they lead.

What emerges this way are not theories to be applied afterward, but grounded, embodied insights that change how we meet our actual lives. This is a weekend retreat — an invitation to enter that inquiry in the fellowship of other men. There will be the option for some deeper individual work in front of the group. Throughout the weekend you'll be accompanied by facilitators who bring diverse gifts and who are walking these questions alongside you, not ahead of you.

Four paths
into the question

Meet the
facilitators

Three facilitators bring complementary gifts — and enter these questions alongside you.

Nathan Vanderpool

Nathan has spent nearly thirty years working at the intersection of sound, meaning, and what it takes to change. He holds a PhD in the sociology of religion, focusing on how people actually encounter the sacred — not in theory, but in experience. Through Agapic Chants, he uses communal singing to create conditions where something real can move. He brings structure and presence; the transformation is yours.

James Cooke

James Cooke PhD is a neuroscientist, author, and nondual practitioner who directs the Oxford Contemplative Science Research Program, based in the university's Department of Psychiatry. In his book The Dawn of Mind, he sets out a philosophy he calls Nondual Naturalism, working to dissolve the old divide between mind and matter. His research asks how shifts in the sense of self can relieve suffering. A scholar-practitioner of more than two decades, he guides from a ground of nonduality and embodiment.

Gabriel Beeby

Gabriel is a psychoanalysis candidate at the C.G. Jung Institute in Zurich. Working as a barrister in criminal law and prisons, he saw cultures of male violence up close. His experiences in law, startups, and flourishing practices also hold many examples of positive-sum male collaboration. He accompanies people seeking interiority or finding meaning — in particular, men navigating the failed polarities of armoured and collapsed.

The
practical side